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Post by gazelle18 on Jan 10, 2017 0:13:46 GMT -5
What’s on your mind — how to make kugel? This week’s Torah reading? Life goals? Prayer? We are all engaged in weight loss/weight maintenance journeys and we are all Jewish or at least interested in Judaism. We like to eat, we like to discuss. It is our goal here to provide each other support on our journeys, to share experiences, to call on our rich cultural heritage and texts, and to help each other grow spiritually.
Some of us take weekly turns starting the thread:
Angelika
Holly
Lee
Louise
Lynne
Peachy
And for those of you that stop by to read this thread without posting - you are welcome to do that but you are also welcome to chime in!
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Post by gazelle18 on Jan 10, 2017 0:31:58 GMT -5
Hi everyone,
Yesterday's counter-resolution (GAIN WEIGHT) seemed to resonate for many of us. Here is another one of Martha Beck's "counter-resolutions " for the new year:
"SPEND MORE. Saving is a virtue. But when frugality becomes extreme, it can create feelings of deprivation - which can lead to compulsive buying. I'm going to avoid the cycle of consumption by paying more. Not more money, but more positive attention to what I have.
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It's energizing to be around someone who heaps positive attention on what she already has. Do it yourself and you'll feel rich."
At first this counter -resolution did not seem to be meaningful for me. I am lucky (and I know it!) to have all of the material things that I actually want. But then I realized that this counter- resolution can apply to both material and non-material things. No, I don't have a thin body. But I have other physical and non-physical attributes for which I am grateful. Martha Beck is advising us to heap attention on e things we do have, instead of dwelling on those beyond our reach.
(I don't think, by the way, that I should ignore my extra pounds. I'd be healthier, and, I believe, happier, without them. I do think, however, that it is not productive to spend too much energy moping about what I don't have at this moment.)
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Post by lee058 on Jan 10, 2017 8:38:36 GMT -5
Good morning everybody. Hope you are all well today. It's cold here in VA again, but not nearly as bad as it was this weekend. It's supposed to warm up tomorrow, yay.
Holly, I'm sorry you are having house problems! I had something similar happen to my house a couple of years ago. A pipe in the crawl space under the kitchen sprung a leak and got water up almost as high as the ceiling. Fortunately, it didn't damage the kitchen floor. I wish you the very best of luck with repairs!!!
Lynne, I think I am going to have to read Martha Beck's books! I really like today's quote. I feel that when I pay attention to the goodness in my life, it makes me feel so much better. The more aware I am, the easier it gets, too.
I'll check back later. Have a peaceful day, Lee
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Post by louise on Jan 10, 2017 10:29:48 GMT -5
BBL on the topic. Wanted to jump in for Holly and Frieda.
Holly - this sounds absolutely terrible. I'm sure I would be freaking out. Please keep us posted-I hope it can be resolved quickly.
Frieda - you had a very distressing day as well. I hope your son is feeling better.I have had that feeling too about not wanting to go out because I look frumpy - It may not be helpful to hear, but often times how I look and how I think I look are not the same - I think I look worse than I do (at least according to my friends and, of course, my mother!).
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Post by peachymom1 on Jan 10, 2017 11:43:30 GMT -5
Good morning everyone,
It's raining here, as it has been for days now, and I hope we get enough rain to cancel out the drought we've had here in SoCal for so long, but at the same time, I hope we can avoid mudslides.
I want to add some hugs and hand pats for Holly and Frieda. I hope things get resolved quickly for both of you. Hang in there.
"It's energizing to be around someone who heaps positive attention on what she already has. Do it yourself and you'll feel rich." I'm not sure I agree with this. Should I crow about what I have to someone who doesn't have those things, so they can envy me or think I'm a self-centered cow? Should I talk about being happily married to my twice-married sister who doesn't understand why she made poor choices both times? Maybe I'm not understanding the quote. Can someone help enlighten me?
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Post by savtele on Jan 10, 2017 12:04:09 GMT -5
Boker Tov All! Holly - I HATE this for you! (fortunately, you were able to shower beforehand). Do you have a gym or country club membership where you can take showers until this is all resolved? (which could, of course, morph nicely into doing some serious stress relief on the golf course or in the weight room!)
Frieda - I hope your son is starting to feel better! And Louise is right - you are probably your own worst critic!
Yesterday I was watching the news - and they predicted the next big snow-storm to come in tonight (I wanted to throw my cane at the TV!) So far we have 3 trees down & another one that will need to come down - I was hoping the major snow-storms were behind us! (we "normally" have 1 or 2 weeks of "real winter weather" here in the Willamette Valley)
On the positive side: our power never went down during the last storms! We have enough wood to burn (and now, with the trees down, for years to come) so if the power were to go down, it's not a problem. Most problems I have are "1st world problems!" Being able to overeat - that is most assuredly a 1st world problem! And the fact that my workout is designated as such - I don't spend hours walking, carrying the weight of an enormous water jug to get potable water to my home. I do not hand-till ANY soil to gain my food, nor do I beat my clothes on a rock in the river to get them clean. It's a good life - that old midrash about Ben Zoma "I wake up in the morning and all these things have been done for me!"
Right now I need to go check my pantry & make a shopping list. We are learning to go shopping between storms. Also need to call mom & find out what she needs. May as well have everyone safe & sound & well-fed at home, whatever the weather may be doing! (hot chocolate is going on my list - we're out!)
Have a good day ladies!
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Post by hollygail on Jan 10, 2017 13:27:41 GMT -5
Brief post and run for me. Before 9 this morning I had already screamed at DH twice. Does that give you an idea of how things are going? There are 3 or 4 trucks outside my house right now... I've lost track of who all of 'em belong to... The packers are here and the plumbers are here and frankly I don't know who all else... I went out to put gas in my car and more trucks were here when I got home...
I think I do acknowledge my strengths. One example: I am not at all shy about saying what a good teacher I am. I don't usually say it to my students (I'm more likely to tell them how nice I am, sort of as a warning not to give me crap during class...), but certainly to parents and colleagues and so on. I spend time by myself, doing what I want to do (as well as helping out other people; I think I told you the grandson of friends died and that I was at their house every day for at least a few minutes, and on the days I wasn't able to, I told them either in advance or the following day why not; and one of them told me how much she appreciated ME, that I'm the person who JUST SHOWED UP all the time and how much it meant both to her and to her wife).
Ok. Gotta pack the laptop, my lunch and my book bag into the car and leave for tutoring and teaching until 6 tonight (it's 10:30 a.m. here).
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Post by louise on Jan 10, 2017 14:01:33 GMT -5
A windfall - I received a surprisingly big check from DXHs estate over the weekend. My mom has been strapped for cash so I am pleased to be able to send a windfall her way too, which I'm sure would make DXH happy too.
On today's topic when I come from a position of confidence in myself and my abilities, when I am feeling good about myself or even just in touch with myself, it does come out in how people perceive me and also in their confidence in me. So in that way appreciating myself does make me richer.
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Post by happysavta on Jan 10, 2017 17:06:44 GMT -5
More errands all morning today. Another trip to the sleep apnea supplier to get a new mask for DS#4, dropped his car at mechanic to get headlights cleaned, left my phone for repair at Sprint, gotta pick it up now.
Our call to a lawyer yesterday went very well and we are reassured. It's very stressful to be told, "I'm going to start litigation against you." I'm sure Lynne can confirm how upsetting it is to clients from her perspective as an attorney. Our lawyer went over the crazy emails from the individual and feels he was just posturing and trying to intimidate and make exorbitant demands. I won't bother you with the details. I'm amazed how calm DH is in this situation. DS#1 and DS#2 have been enormously helpful too. Me, I always think the sky is falling, but it's not. I need a nap now.
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Post by hollygail on Jan 10, 2017 19:18:09 GMT -5
Am at my shul, using the administrator's computer (she goes home around 2ish), waiting for 4:30 to start my class (well, I'm waiting until 4:25 to get the room ready for my 4:30 class). The rabbi (who teaches the second half) is rehearsing the bar mitzvah boy who will be called to Torah on Shabbat, so I'm covering her half of the class too. Frankly, I'm glad to be out of the house today (also away from DH; let's face it, folks, it's relatively common that one partner reacts to things one way and the other partner another way, like Frieda was stressed and her DH wasn't, right? Well, my DH freaks out at the littlest thing and I just don't want to deal with his particular brand of mishegoss — it's his mishegoss that stresses me...). A different set of people will come tomorrow (the packers won't touch my harpsichord; they're sending another company that specializes in things like pianos). The flood abatement guy will come with some other guy to check the walls... (I didn't understand what DH was trying to tell me), and the pack up people will come around 9am to pick up the furniture (they're storing it in a pod at their location). At least we'll have hot water tonight (I was planning to go to the gym after class, but now I don't have to; YAY!).
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