The Beck Diet Solution (BDS): Day 1 Discussion (8/1 & 8/2)

[Coloradolime]

The last time I did Beck, I didn't get very far.  In fact I remember creating this list but it was very small and I didn't put much thought in to it. I put a lot more effort in to the list this time around, including reading everything you all have shared.  Many were duplicates of what I had (we're all in the same boat) and others were ones that spoke to me.  

I have this list at home and at work.  Love the idea of sticking it right inside the book for quick access!  I'll add these to my notes app on my phone so they are always with me on the go as well.  Reviewing this list on a set schedule isn't going to help me.  Reviewing it 30-45 min prior to a meal or the decision of a meal will be most helpful.   Those are my weakest moments.


My Advantages to losing AND maintaining:


---That "feeling" of being lighter and healthier

---A better role model for my kids

---Fitting in to beautiful, single digit size clothes

---Not feeling embarrassed by the way I think others see me

---Stop analyzing a room to determine if I'm the fattest one there

---More energy

---Better sleep

---Eliminate the back pain that is aggravated by my weight

---Feeling more attractive and be more open to romance with DH

---Cut significant time off my OCR finish time and enjoy the challenges more

---Stop hiding from the camera

---Actually getting family photos taken before the kids grow up

---Not being the fat mom at my kids' school

---When I workout, I don't want people to think, "Oh she's trying to lose weight." I want them to think, "Look how healthy she is."

---To be fit for as long as possible. I don't want to be a shriveled, hunchbacked, old lady.

---Get rid of my scale forever

---To enjoy all the fabulously healthy hobbies I had two years ago and have since been too lazy to get back to.  I'll get to add to my bib collection and medal wall.

[3bigboys]

Something interesting I discovered; I bought the book on Amazon. Since I have had good look with used books before , I purchased Beck used for $.01. Started reading yesterday and noticed a few notes made by previous owner. They were generic, nothing very personal, but as I thumbed through the rest of the book, I noticed she stopped on Day 4. I found myself thinking about her and hoping that she was doing well wherever she was in her journey😀
That being said, my ARC is for health but also to get stronger both physically and emotionally. Fitting into my clothes more comfortably is there also. My son getting married In 2 months is a short term goal just because of all the pictures!!!

[mare]

Just got my first emailed version of this arc and it kept me from heading to the vending machines to reward myself for turning in a referee report.

I'm enjoying reading everyone's posts so far.

[smithie]

Oh, I forgot, I will read mine on the train to and from work and at some point during the witching hours, after dinner and before bed.

[JJ]

I've read the material and am preparing to make my cards.  I'm still contemplating what is most important to me.  As with others, I have never really asked myself for specifics as to why I want to lose weight other than I am so tired of being fat.  This will be an opportunity to delve into my real feelings about myself.

I plan to make 3 copies.  One for my purse, one for the refrigerator, and one for the coffee table, because evenings are the worst times for me - that is when I tend to indulge the most.  I will read in the morning with my 1st cup of coffee, I will read before each meal and every single time I reach for a snack (I will have to make the one on the coffee table bright).

i am really looking forward to this.

[whiskeytango]

Thank you Mare and others for getting this started-

1. Be more active
2. Be stronger
3. Clothes to fit well
4. Be more comfortable
5. Be healthier
6. Not feel judged
7. Be in control
8. Move freely

I have them written out on a card for the office, and will take a picture of it for my phone.

[cj59]

Hello Everyone - I've enjoyed reading your posts. I'm a newcomer to Beck, so I look forward to working the program.

I've read the Day 1 material and wrote out my Advantages in my notebook as they came to my mind (12 to start with) and then I ranked them 1-12 and wrote them out on 3x5 cards that way. I plan to keep my cards at my computer (I'm still on a desktop) and read them in the morning when I turn on my computer and then in the evening (usually right after dinner) when I turn the computer off.

Here are my top 5 reasons:

1. For my better health
2. To look and feel like a normal person
3. To be able to enjoy my retirement and senior years
4. To be strong enough to take care of myself
5. To be able to make changes in my life I need to make

[pwrwoman1]

I'm struggling with reading, but I will do my darndest to catch up tonight. In the meantime, here are my ARCs.

1 - To feel confident
2 - To feel in control of everything (when I have food under control, everything else seems to fall into place)
3 - To stay healthy and not be in the same position as my sick mother
4 - To be the hot/young wife . . . I can't do much about young, but I can about hot
5 - To be strong and be able to keep up with my workouts
6 - To reduce my run pace and enjoy running again. Since putting on 10 +/- lbs my pace has increased about 1min/mi
7 - To feel comfortable in my own skin/clothes

I think that's it for now, but I'm sure I have a lot more. I will be reading when I wake up, at the lunch hour, and immediately after dinner (my personal witching hour).

[cinderella333]

Im procrastinating writing these - I have my old ones from last time and I want to write new ones- I will do it tonight.

I'll probably steal most of the great ones posted here- because I cant think of any new ones....

[ashtangi]

Can I ask a general question? Is anyone feeling a bit sad starting this? I mean, I'm excited and totally on board, but from what I've read so far in the book, there's going to be a lot of thinking about everything you put in your mouth. It seems stressful. Is it going to get easier? Or am I panicking for no reason?

[lindabee]

I am enjoying reading your ARCs.

I am such a dork though. I am all set, made my card and set my Fitbit alarm to remind me to read my card. When my alarm went off this morning while I was at work I just shut it off. I completely forgot to read my card. Hopefully I can only go up from here.

[sarahsota]

I just added another one.

I want my life to be filled with other thoughts besides food constantly.

[mare]

ashtangi, totally normal. It is sad (and, for me, scary) to take control like you're about to do. But I promise if you commit to this and do every step, by the time we finish on November 4th or so, you will feel very very differently in a positive way.

[fitin14]

I will read my list before breakfast, at 3 pm before I make supper and one more time in the evening. 

[lunabear]

I reached goal a couple months ago and have gained some back since. I need to get back there because I want to:

* be healthy and strong as I age
* look nice in my clothes
* smile at my reflection in the mirror
* prevent and have less joint pain
* be thin should I need any surgery in the future
* have more energy to do the things I need to do and the things I want to do

I'll read this before breakfast and dinner

[lisabee]

Mine are very similar to the list in Ch 5, but I will plan to review and update regularly. I have lots, so am just listing some of them:

1. I'll feel more in control.
2. I'll have more energy.
3. I'll be able to wear my old clothes (I have some gorgeous jeans that I've kept for >10 years).
4. I'll feel better physically.
5. I'll be happier when I step on the scales.

I plan to read them just before I make breakfast and at 4pm. One reminder is taped on a kitchen cupboard the other is on my phone, as a daily reminder.

Thanks Mare!

[coffeequeen63]

ashtangi I can answer that from my perspective. I think about everything I put in my mouth now. Yet I still eat crap and then I go to bed and berate myself for being a failure and having no self control and I tell myself what a total loser I am. It's not a fun place to be. When I'm following the Beck principles, I seem to not obsess over food as much. I think I actually enjoy what I eat more because I'm eating when I'm hungry and not just shoveling food in my mouth because it's 4:00 and I'm tired. Also, Beck is about learning to eat in a way that you can sustain, not depriving yourself. This is just my perspective, but I hope that helps and maybe lessens your anxiety about starting!

[mmlee]

I'm almost done with the reading, I'll finish up after DD is in bed.

My list so far (I'll do some editing and deeper thinking later)
1. To continue being attractive to DH
2. To feel better physically
3. To have more energy and lose the constant sluggish feeling
4. To feel more in control
5. To model healthy eating to my daughter
6. To be a better mom because I'm not so tired all the time
7. To not have to stifle panic when I grab a pair of jeans I haven't worn in awhile
8. To be more confident naked
9. To stop being a slave to sugar

[ontosomething]

These are mine:

• Look good in clothes and without clothes
• I am a person who only eats when hungry 
• I am a person who chooses healthy and nourishing food 
• I want to look good in a bathing suit
• I want to climb stairs without being winded
• I am a person that cooks healthy food
• I am a person that loves to exercise
• I am a person that doesn't hesitate to visit with people because of the way that I look or the way that I feel
• I want to fit into my skinny clothes 
• I want to feel good about myself
• I am a person that is in control of my eating and feels good about that
• I want to get back into exercising
• I am a person that enjoys the taste of healthy food more than junk
• I'll have more energy 

I am going to read my list before breakfast and at 3pm when I want to snack. 

[texasless91]

I am a first timer on this thread but previously participated a couple of times on the other Beck thread that used to be on the WW Newbies board. Thank you, Mare, for starting this. I enjoyed reading everyone's ARCs. I have done this exercise before, the first time being nearly 4 years ago. But since then, I retired so priorities have changed a bit and it might be easier to concentrate without all the other clutter that used to be in my life. As a result, I did make changes to my ARCs and they currently are:


1. I’ll be healthier for the rest of my life.

2. My knees will feel better.

3. I’ll look better.

4. I’ll wear smaller clothes.

5. I’ll live longer.



My goal is to read them at breakfast and again either at lunch or early in the afternoon.



Looking forward to going on this journey with all of you. Best of luck to each of us!

[squintco]

Hi All,

I still need to read everyone's responses but wanted to get mine posted while it is still Day One

My ARC:


- I am a person who takes responsibility for myself, my coping habits and the results of those habits.

- I am a person who enjoys looking at myself in photographs and in the mirror

- I am a thin, flexible strong and fit person

- I am a person who is happy about myself and is not self-critical

- I am a person who is in control of her eating habits

- I am a person who is not defined by food

- I am a person who does not turn to food for comfort

- I am a person who wears stylish clothes

- I am a person who slowly enjoys each bite of her food while sitting down at the table

I have my ARC on my phone as well as in a Word document in my Beck file. I read it as soon as I get up in the morning and again in late afternoon before dinner.

It's so great to see so many people participating! I love getting tips, ideas and moral support for everyone!!

[klinemom]

Mine are:
1. Feel better about myself
2. Like the way I look in pictures
3. Wear most of the clothes in my closet
4. Run a 5K instead of walk
5. Be a better example to my daughters
6. Get "checked out".
7. Not need a joint replacement like most of my older female relatives
8. Maybe get a sex drive back

It helped this morning, there were donuts in the office kitchen. I repeated I want to look better in pictures and walked away.

[mary~m]

My cards are on my phone.  I will read them when I get up, and before I go to bed.

Here is my list:

I will have more self confidence
I will be in more control of my life
I'll have more energy
I'll be taken more seriously at work
My blood pressure will go down
I will be more comfortable joining in group exercise classes
I will be proud of myself
I will live a longer and healthier life
I will feel more attractive
I can exercise with less risk of injury
I will feel great at my next physical
I will have a stronger mind-body connection
I will enjoy the beach and the ocean more
I will spend less time thinking about food
I will feel less shame about my eating
I will waste less energy deciding/thinking about food
I will rock my mother of the groom attire

[mrsb]

I've done this before with a long list and it sort of wore me out and watered down my focus. YMMV. So I settled on five.

I'll have more energy, feel better, and live longer in my retirement.
I'll be able to bike and do active things with Dave.
I enjoy the attention of looking good.
I will be a fun Nana for C, C, and A.
I will be stronger at 60.

[ruthmarie]

I am excited to participate in this book study. I plan to read my ARC on my way to work and at the end of the day when I sit down to read the newspaper.

What I hope to accomplish:

1. Reduce knee pain and decrease the likelihood of a future knee replacement.
2. Improve fitness and flexibility.
3. Buy more stylish clothes and purge my closets, which are driving me crazy.
4. Actually enjoy walks and bike riding with my husband rather than going out of a sense of duty.
5. Increase confidence and self-esteem.