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Post by peachymom1 on Oct 31, 2023 21:55:07 GMT -5
What’s on your mind — how to make kugel? This week’s Torah reading? Life goals? Prayer? We are all engaged in weight loss/weight maintenance journeys and we are all Jewish or at least interested in Judaism. We like to eat, we like to discuss. It is our goal here to provide each other support on our journeys, to share experiences, to call on our rich cultural heritage and texts, and to help each other grow spiritually.
Some of us take weekly turns starting the thread:
Frieda (hopefully)?
Holly
Lee
Louise
Lynne
Peachy
And for those of you that stop by to read this thread without posting — you are welcome to, but you are also welcome to chime in. Don’t be shy!
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Post by peachymom1 on Oct 31, 2023 21:55:59 GMT -5
Good morning! In preparation for our annual performance reviews that are coming up, yesterday was the deadline to turn in my self-assessment. All employees have to fill one out online and turn it in. In prior years, it was just managers and above who had to evaluate themselves, but now it’s everybody.
How do you feel about evaluating yourself, whether for a job or any other time it might come up? Are you good at blowing your own horn, or would you prefer to skip the whole thing? When I first had to start doing these, I felt it was a PITA and a time-sucker, but then I realized that this was my chance to give my boss the information he needs to recommend me for a raise. So I came up with a strategy and a cookie-cutter method for doing this each year. I keep a running list all year of my accomplishments and any special projects that come up or somehow land in my lap, and I match up the items on that list to the goals that were set for me at the beginning of the year. It makes everything clear, concise, and easy for my new boss to read quickly. My former boss (who retired a few months ago) loved it – I hope my new one does too.
Besides evaluating yourself, how are you at evaluating others? How about for services you receive? Do you like to give feedback on things you order online, or how people treated you at the grocery store, etc.? How vocal are you about things that go right as well as wrong?
I read an article many years ago that talked about the importance of giving “orchids” (positive feedback) and “onions” (negative feedback), not just to satisfy our own need to express ourselves after an experience, but hopefully to encourage companies (and people) who are doing things well, and to let others know where they can improve (whether they care or want to know or not). I do tend to speak up, and I used to write a lot of letters, when I’ve gotten both excellent and terrible service. I don’t know if it makes a difference to anyone else, but it certainly does to me.
How about you?
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Post by lee058 on Nov 1, 2023 5:03:13 GMT -5
Good morning everybody. Hope you are all well and SAFE! Please pray for Israel.
Re today's topic: As for evaluating myself, I tend to be too critical, but have been working on that for a long time. As for evaluating others, it depends on the situation. I try to give people the benefit of the doubt, and am almost always very nice to workmen who come to my house. As for leaving reviews, I do it sometimes; it depends on my mood. I often will call a company to praise someone if he/she has given me exceptional service.
I think it makes a difference, and I like that.
Have a peaceful day, Lee
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Post by gazelle18 on Nov 1, 2023 8:11:07 GMT -5
I think there is a big difference between evaluating yourself for a professional purpose (like Peachy was required to do), and evaluating yourself for your own internal purposes. The former is done for lots of reasons, including the smart reason Peachy did the exercise: to draw her boss’ attention to her accomplishments in a concise, easy to access format. The latter is, of course, completely different.
I like to look back on my performance of a particular task and pick it apart, both good and bad. But truly what matters now, is the overall body of work. How did I - in an overall sense - live up to best standards as a lawyer, as a parent, as a spouse, as a human ? Because performance isn’t always even!
Regarding giving orchids, I’m glad that I recently gave one. I had to host a dinner for a group I’m involved with. I ordered the food from the local Greek restaurant, which is a couple of blocks from my house . The food was flavorful, reasonably priced, and ready on time. The next day, I happened to pass by the restaurant. I stopped the car, went in, and told the manager how well it had gone. He was really happy to hear it. (And I felt good doing it.)
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Post by hollygail on Nov 1, 2023 9:09:10 GMT -5
I clearly remember the first time I gave an "orchid." It was in a department store. After the clerk really did help me, not just wait on me, I went to the floor where the administration / management of the store is. I asked for the manager of whatever area it was I had been in. I told him that people often go to management to complain about a service or the person giving the service and I wanted to give a compliment about what I'd just experienced in the such-and-such department. He was truly surprised! I knew the name of the woman who'd helped me and I told him I'd like him to include a note in her personnel file about how well she answered my questions and showed me what I really was looking for. I can't tell you just how long ago that was, but it was definitely before I lived in San Diego County (I moved here in August of 1989), so it may have been in the 80s or even the 70s (I suspect it wasn't in the 60s).
Nowadays, much of the "service" I receive is via phone, so I ask the person who helped me to connect me with his/her boss (and yes, I do tell the person who helped why I wanted to commend him/her).
As for self-evaluation, I can look back on an accomplishment and pat myself on the back if I did well, or figure out what I'd done poorly and remember it for the next time I attempt something similar. I get the opportunity sometimes several times a week; for instance, I tutor kids for b. mitzvah, and can tell what's working and what isn't for the specific tutee. I then have to figure out another approach or whatever so that the kid can feel successful. And guess what? It makes me feel good too! And I'm frequently in a position vis a vis DH when I get the opportunity to figure out who said what that made the other of us ... how shall I put this ... uncomfortable? and then what I might do next time to avoid such discomfort... If Dh did something that irritated me, I can tell him what I'd like instead of whatever it is he did. Sometimes it surprises me that he listens and attempts to change his approach. (Sometimes he does listen...)
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Post by hollygail on Nov 1, 2023 9:13:24 GMT -5
I clearly remember the first time I gave an "orchid." It was in a department store. After the clerk really did help me, not just wait on me, I went to the floor where the administration / management of the store is. I asked for the manager of whatever area it was I had been in. I told him that people often go to management to complain about a service or the person giving the service and I wanted to give a compliment about what I'd just experienced in the such-and-such department. He was truly surprised! I knew the name of the woman who'd helped me and I told him I'd like him to include a note in her personnel file about how well she answered my questions and showed me what I really was looking for. I can't tell you just how long ago that was, but it was definitely before I lived in San Diego County (I moved here in August of 1989), so it may have been in the 80s or even the 70s (I suspect it wasn't in the 60s).
Nowadays, much of the "service" I receive is via phone, so I ask the person who helped me to connect me with his/her boss (and yes, I do tell the person who helped why I wanted to commend him/her).
As for self-evaluation, I can look back on an accomplishment and pat myself on the back if I did well, or figure out what I'd done poorly and remember it for the next time I attempt something similar. I get the opportunity sometimes several times a week; for instance, I tutor kids for b. mitzvah, and can tell what's working and what isn't for the specific tutee. I then have to figure out another approach or whatever so that the kid can feel successful. And guess what? It makes me feel good too! And I'm frequently in a position vis a vis DH when I get the opportunity to figure out who said what that made the other of us ... how shall I put this ... uncomfortable? and then what I might do next time to avoid such discomfort... If Dh did something that irritated me, I can tell him what I'd like instead of whatever it is he did. Sometimes it surprises me that he listens and attempts to change his approach. (Sometimes he does listen...)
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Post by louise on Nov 1, 2023 20:10:40 GMT -5
Right now I'm in the middle of giving Noom a piece of my mind. They utterly failed me but won't refund my money!
I do like to compliment people that go out of their way to be helpful. Sometimes your entire experience depends on who answers the phone! Someone resourceful, someone grumpy, and so on. I am losing my battle with Noom but atl east I got to vent!! The ebay vendor I have been getting my crochet thread from however was a lifesaver. She caught my order in time to double the quantity thereby saving me shipping fees and still getting the thread to me faster than expected - we all know time is of the essence for me right now (and I was all out of one color).
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