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Post by louise on Nov 28, 2023 0:35:35 GMT -5
What’s on your mind — how to make kugel? This week’s Torah reading? Life goals? Prayer? We are all engaged in weight loss/weight maintenance journeys and we are all Jewish or at least interested in Judaism. We like to eat, we like to discuss. It is our goal here to provide each other support on our journeys, to share experiences, to call on our rich cultural heritage and texts, and to help each other grow spiritually.
Some of us take weekly turns starting the thread:
Frieda (hopefully)?
Holly
Lee
Louise
Lynne
Peachy
And for those of you that stop by to read this thread without posting — you are welcome to, but you are also welcome to chime in. Don’t be shy!
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Post by louise on Nov 28, 2023 0:38:57 GMT -5
Was still depressed today and feeling stuck so I went looking for ideas on “checking in with yourself”.
Here’s a list of 5 questions to ask yourself every day.
1. How Am I Feeling Today? ...
2. What's Been Worrying Me Lately? ...
3. Am I Providing My Body With Its Basic Needs? ...
4. What Am I Doing to Bring Myself Joy? ...
5. Who Do I Have In My Corner?
Another list - this one’s 6 and starts with the same first question:
How am I feeling today?
What is not working for me?
What IS working for me?
What do I need?
What am I proud of?
What can I let go of?
There were lists of 25 questions and lists of 40 questions. The important thing I think is just the process of checking in with yourself. The first list maybe is more on the emotional side. The second list I feel is more action oriented. I have been feeling stuck and the thing at those times is to find an opening, some wedge that gives you a way in. Beryl mentioned yesterday letting go of behavior that doesn’t serve her. We know that what doesn’t serve you in one way (moving you toward a goal) may serve you in another (giving comfort) so that is not always so easy. Maybe another question would be “What are you willing to do?”
In many ways I feel I’m back to square one. But it occurs to me that square one is no longer where it used to be. I have a lot more self-knowledge. I have assets that I just need to remind myself of. I have successes that I can use to light up a path.
Would love to hear if any of this resonates with you.
Has your square one moved?
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Post by gazelle18 on Nov 28, 2023 9:12:09 GMT -5
Louise, you are NOT back at square one. As you have yourself voiced, it might feel like square one, but your square one has moved.
My square one has definitely moved. Recent example (and I’d love others’ input on this situation if you have time): I recently became involved with a local Jewish women’s organization. I figured it would give me something to do after having transitioned from being chair of Avodah. I was recruited as “someone who knows how to lead.” I was given the straightforward task of arranging a general meeting, to include arranging for a speaker, the publicity, a local home for the meeting, and a caterer for the dinner. I set about the task with enthusiasm. The caterers quotes were all sort of high, and I proposed several alternatives for changing the event, or for funding the event to defray the cost.
Well, last night I learned that the leadership had rejected my ideas and someone else will be taking over this task. Say what?
I admit to being insulted, misunderstood, and belittled. But rather than doubt myself, I have decided to reframe the situation. Perhaps my leadership style doesn’t mesh with theirs. Perhaps they are simply being inflexible. Perhaps I did not do sufficient research to handle a task which I believed to be straightforward. Whatever, IT IS NOT THE END OF THE WORLD. In the past, all of this would have prompted a binge on chocolate chip cookies!
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Post by hollygail on Nov 28, 2023 9:57:30 GMT -5
gazelle18, Lynne, do you plan to remain a member of the group? If yes, how do you plan to navigate having been unceremoniously thrown out of the position they had previously requested you to hold?
louise, Louise, It seems to me you're on an interesting path. You're aware you're not where you want to be and you're more than willing to discover what you must do to get onto a path you prefer. Bravo for researching how to find it! And on your willingness to do so! You're already making progress in that you have determined an additional way you haven't read about written by others!
I haven't gone through the angst you describe. When I have found myself in a rut, I didn't do any research about getting out of it. I just plain became the elephant in the china shop and moved my way, regardless of how much "merchandise" got broken in my way out the door. I left relationships behind and never looked back. I left places behind and never looked back. You might say I chose escape rather than figuring out what went wrong, or why something went wrong. I never stayed around long enough to put things right. I admire your dedication. Until I wrote this, I never realized how little devotion I'd had to certain things in my own past. I'm proud of you for facing things head on.
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Post by lee058 on Nov 28, 2023 10:15:56 GMT -5
Good morning everybody. Hope you are all well and SAFE! Please pray for Israel.
Re today's topic: I think checking in with yourself is very important. Figuring out what you think and feel can be difficult, but once you do it, you can figure out what you want and want to do. Then you can take steps to get there. So, it all starts with asking yourself questions.
Have a peaceful day, Lee
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Post by peachymom1 on Nov 28, 2023 15:57:13 GMT -5
I'm in awe of how both Louise and Lynne have faced these things head-on and are powering through them. Thank you for setting a good example for me!
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Post by brgmsn on Nov 28, 2023 18:52:39 GMT -5
I was on our previous Temple board for years in various positions, the last one being special events coordinator. I did a hugely successful cookbook author speech/booksigning at our synagogue on a Sunday that got statewide coverage (google Michael Solomonov and Zahav). I despise meetings. Most meetings could be/should be an email IMO. So I asked if I could be excused from board meetings and just do my job. Next thing I know, I got a certificate thanking me for my service....
Here's your hat, what's your hurry?
I also was upset and offended at first, then realized I was happy to be done, and it was more than time for me to step aside and let newer, younger folks take over. My day was done.
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