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Post by peachymom1 on Feb 8, 2024 0:55:38 GMT -5
What’s on your mind — how to make kugel? This week’s Torah reading? Life goals? Prayer? We are all engaged in weight loss/weight maintenance journeys and we are all Jewish or at least interested in Judaism. We like to eat, we like to discuss. It is our goal here to provide each other support on our journeys, to share experiences, to call on our rich cultural heritage and texts, and to help each other grow spiritually.
Some of us take weekly turns starting the thread:
Frieda (hopefully)?
Holly
Lee
Louise
Lynne
Peachy
And for those of you that stop by to read this thread without posting — you are welcome to, but you are also welcome to chime in. Don’t be shy!
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Post by peachymom1 on Feb 8, 2024 0:56:36 GMT -5
Good morning! A couple of weeks ago, Lee talked about what we do during the day to feel useful. I’ve been thinking about usefulness ever since. How does the need to feel useful extend to your overall feeling of usefulness in our society and in your family? I’ve read many times about people wanting to still feel useful as they get older. What defines being useful as we age? Is it bringing in an income? Making the world better? Helping others through volunteering our time and talents? What could happen to you that would make you NOT feel useful? What do you do/could you do to avoid that feeling? Or do you think it’s inevitable? Have you ever known anyone who doesn’t feel the need to be useful in the world? I have such a person in my circle, and he’s one of most unhappy people I’ve ever known, yet he has no desire to change his life.
I’ve been thinking about usefulness lately because of DH’s unemployed status. The other day, he mentioned that he feels useless not contributing to the household, but I reminded him that he contributed quite a lot of vacation hours that his employer had to pay out, he also contributed the severance pay he received, and that as a taxpayer for 45+ years, he is certainly entitled to the unemployment payments he’s getting and contributing to the household. He hadn’t thought of it that way, and it made him feel better. DH is a good man, he’s doing everything he can to find another job, and I don’t want him feeling bad or useless, because he certainly is neither of those things.
I know I asked a lot of questions, so if you’d like to pick out any or all of them to discuss, that would be wonderful. :+)
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Post by lee058 on Feb 8, 2024 10:04:18 GMT -5
Good morning everybody. Hope you are all well and SAFE! Please pray for Israel.
Re today's topic: Right now, I am continuing to metaphorically jump through hoops to get my Wegovy pre-approved. I am having problems with my endocrinologist, BC/BS and CVS Caremark. I do not feel useless because I am doing everything I possibly can do re phone calls, emails, etc., to get things straightened out. On the other hand, I feel useless because I can't make these people/bureaucracies do what I need and want! I am struggling to remain patient and calm, but it is very hard.
As for the news, there are so many things happening in the world over which I have NO control. It's discouraging. However, I am struggling with staying positive here too.
In some ways, I do not feel as useful as I once did because of my leg/knee problems. DH and DS have taken over so many things that I used to do. I am grateful to them, but I wish I could stand, walk, sit and get up and down, climb stairs, and go places without pain.
OTOH as well, I try to keep a good attitude and make other people happier, more knowledgeable, and more in touch with good things. I think these are important.
Anyway, today I will be watching the news and hopefully it will turn out the way I want it to.
Have a peaceful day, Lee
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Post by gazelle18 on Feb 8, 2024 18:05:22 GMT -5
At times I feel like a useless dinosaur. For example, when I have to do almost anything computer related. But the idea of actually getting better at this has me stymied. Which compounds my feelings of being a dinosaur!
Peachy, you are so right in all of the things you are saying to your DH. And no matter what you say, this will be a hard time for him. I wish him and you the best with the current issue. I’m sure the upcoming wedding will be a true joy!
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