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Post by hollygail on Mar 28, 2024 7:39:23 GMT -5
What’s on your mind — how to make kugel? This week’s Torah reading? Life goals? Prayer? We are all engaged in weight loss/weight maintenance journeys and we are all Jewish or at least interested in Judaism. We like to eat, we like to discuss. It is our goal here to provide each other support on our journeys, to share experiences, to call on our rich cultural heritage and texts, and to help each other grow spiritually.
Some of us take weekly turns starting the thread:
Frieda (hopefully)?
Holly
Lee
Louise
Lynne
Peachy
And for those of you that stop by to read this thread without posting — you are welcome to, but you are also welcome to chime in. Don’t be shy!
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Post by hollygail on Mar 28, 2024 7:46:21 GMT -5
Various forms of offerings are taught about in this week's Torah portion. One is the reparation offering (asham, from which comes the Ashamnu prayer repeated numerous times during High Holy Days services). It is intended as a way to purify the worshiper of the wrongs that s/he has committed. From this we can learn that Judaism says that you can move on from doing something wrong. Judaism does not believe in simply feeling guilty; it teaches that you can make restitution. In ancient days, that was in the form of a sacrificial offering. Nowadays, it can take the form of an apology and/or somehow making up for the what you have done.
In your life, do you / have you held onto guilt for something you've done? Or can you move on? If so, how? And/or what are ways that you have made up for some wrongs you have done?
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Post by louise on Mar 28, 2024 8:55:41 GMT -5
When I realize I have done something wrong I try to make it up usually with an apology and/or a corrective action. I really try to avoid carrying guilt over something with another person especially if I can clean it up. Sometimes you don't get to see the person again or for some other reason you cannot say how you feel. In that case I am reminded about how to handle an inability to pay someone back for what they have done for you for instance if someone needs your help and then there is no way to pay you back in kind remind them that they pay it back to someone else when they need help. Maybe somethng like that coud work in this situation as well.
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Post by lee058 on Mar 28, 2024 8:57:45 GMT -5
Good morning everybody. Hope you are all well and SAFE! Please pray for Israel.
Re today's topic: There are a few things in my life that I still feel guilty about, even though they happened years ago. I've tried to move on by telling myself that I did the best that I could at the time. Sometimes this helps, but other times I berate myself for not having done things better. Life can be difficult, and making choices can be too. I remind myself that I am only human and make mistakes, and also that nobody is perfect. This can help too. Also, I talk with my therapist, and she is helpful in telling me not to blame myself for things that either weren't my fault or that (as I said) I handled the best that I could at the time.
Of course, I apologize to DS when I lose my temper or am not as nice to him as I wish I were. That generally works for making restitution to him.
Have a peaceful day, Lee
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Post by peachymom1 on Mar 28, 2024 17:58:40 GMT -5
Carrying guilt around only makes me feel worse, so I apologize as soon as I can and do my best to put things right. I don't wait any longer than I have to - I don't want someone else to feel bad any longer than they have to.
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