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Post by gazelle18 on Nov 12, 2024 23:14:49 GMT -5
What’s on your mind — how to make kugel? This week’s Torah reading? Life goals? Prayer? We are all engaged in weight loss/weight maintenance journeys and we are all Jewish or at least interested in Judaism. We like to eat, we like to discuss. It is our goal here to provide each other support on our journeys, to share experiences, to call on our rich cultural heritage and texts, and to help each other grow spiritually.
Some of us take weekly turns starting the thread:
Frieda (hopefully)?
Holly
Lee
Louise
Lynne
Peachy
And for those of you that stop by to read this thread without posting — you are welcome to, but you are also welcome to chime in. Don’t be shy!
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Post by gazelle18 on Nov 12, 2024 23:55:44 GMT -5
Taking a break from election news today.
Here is what I’d like your advice on:
A few years ago, DH and I befriended a wonderful couple who moved to NOLA from out of state to be near their local daughter and her family. They are a retired couple, very friendly and fun, who enjoy lots of the same things we do. Separately, the wife and I have become quite close. The husband recently had some medical symptoms, which led to him to undergo a cardiac catheterization procedure to diagnose suspected heart issues. DH and I went to the hospital to be with the wife while the husband was having the procedure. There, she received bad news. The husband’s cardiac issues are serious, and he will need to have triple bypass surgery. This will occur in a couple of weeks. We plan to go back to be with her for the surgery. Understandably, my friend is sad, scared, and anxious .
What’s your best advice for me regarding how to be of the best assistance to her? Believe it or not, this is my first time being the go-to comforter of a close friend whose loved one is seriously ill.
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Post by peachymom1 on Nov 13, 2024 0:15:47 GMT -5
You're a wonderful friend, and she is lucky to have you.
I think you can take your cues from her: listen when she wants to talk, just be with her when she wants company, and make sure she eats and takes care of herself, as best you can. Let her know you're there for her, and keep checking on her. Sometimes people need some time and space alone too - it sounds like you are close enough that you will be able to just ask her what she needs sometimes too.
I hope everything goes well with the husband, and I wish hope and strength to everyone (including you).
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Post by lee058 on Nov 13, 2024 6:25:13 GMT -5
Good morning everybody. Hope you are all well and SAFE! Please pray for Israel and the USA.
Re today's topic: I agree with Peachy. You are a good friend, and I think you can take your cues from her and she'll tell you what she needs (verbally or not).
Have a peaceful day, Lee
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Post by hollygail on Nov 13, 2024 7:08:21 GMT -5
Me too. Just like Lee, I completely agree with Peachy's advice. Taking your clues from the wife is definitely the way to go. And pats on the back to you for being such a good friend.
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Post by louise on Nov 13, 2024 9:35:41 GMT -5
It's a pile on - Peachy nailed it. Sometimes it's "Don't just do something, stand there.". In other words, be available. Definitely offer food even while you are waiting at the hospital with her, etc. And she needs to get sleep. I am glad these friends came into your lives and they are, you can be sure, very glad you came nto theirs!
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